If you made it past the first date and have a second date coming up - congrats! J The second date should feel a bit more relaxed than the first. Here are my top 5 tips for a successful date number two: 1. Do something that you chatted about in date one. If the first date went well, you should know a little bit more now about your date’s interests. Is there a food that you both like? Is there an activity you both enjoy? If you plan something you both said you liked, it will be appreciated that you took the extra mile to make it more personal. We talked about Asian food in our first date, so for our second date, I took Alena to Hunan Dynasty and impressed her by ordering the dishes in Cantonese. I also found out in date one that Alena used to have a quaker parrot, and loves birds. At the time, there happened to be a Birds of Paradise exhibit going on at the National Geographic Museum, so we took that as a sign of fate and made a museum trip our second date.
2. Do something fun, public, and interactive. If your first date was a quick cup of coffee or a drink at happy hour, make this date a bit more of an activity. Check out a concert together. Shoot billiards. Go dancing. Whatever you do, just have fun. But hold off on Netflix and chilling until at least the third date, if you’re playing for keeps.
3. Have it on a weekend. I suggested a weekday for the first date, but I suggest a weekend afternoon or evening for the second. Test your date out and see how they respond. If they’re up for a weekend, then that’s a good sign they’re into you. On the other hand, if you find in the next date or two that they’re only available in the weekdays, they may be seeing someone else or not that interested.
4. Keep the romance going before, during, and after date two. If (and only if) the second date is going well, be affectionate, hold hands, flirt, make out. Keep the texts and talk sexy, but also balanced with talk about each other’s interests and quirks, likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams, etc.
"Your only goal is to make the next date a fun, comfortable experience and get to know each other a little better. And then repeat until you’ve lost count of the dates you’ve had."
5. Take one date at a time. Your only goal is to make the next date a fun, comfortable experience and get to know each other a little better. And then repeat until you’ve lost count of the dates you’ve had. Don’t bring up any grand plans for the future, or talk about wedding ideas or rings – even if you want to. If you’re both having a great time, and discovering that you both are looking for the same things, it will happen naturally.